Promise to remain TRUE: Sleeping with the ENEMY 3/21/2011

Let me get right on it. I have a 5 year old son. This is my first child and I am so happy because this is what I wanted since I was 10 years old to be a wife and, mother. I’ve got my ring and my baby, my life sounds like its going good right; right? The only problem is I don’t know who my son’s father is. Now I have kept that secret and planned on taking it to my grave until my son has come up with medical complications. They are wanting to test my blood and my husbands incase he needs blood we’d be the first to give him what he needs if we match. I am so scared and I don’t know what to do. I WILL DO ANYTHING FOR MY SON. He is my world. I’ve already had my blood taken and I’m not a match so bring on the drama. The “other” guy has always known that he maybe the father and he sends me money and things for my son. I know I shouldn’t be taking this behind my husbands back because he’s a great man. But the way I see it my son is benefitting from having 2 dads because he can get any and everything he wants. He won’t have to grow up wanting or needing for anything. This isn’t even the half because the other guy is my husband’s worst enemy! I know what your thinking but my husband and I were at a very bad place when I slept with his enemy. And since I am putting it all out there I might as well say that I still sleep with his enemy from time to time. I know I am only digging a deeper grave but I love them both. They are excellent to my son. My fear is that it’s about to come out because in my heart I know my son’s father is really not my husbands. I’m deathly afraid of how this is going to turn out. What should I do?
Sincerly,
Lost and Confused
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My Dearest Lost and Confused,
          GIRL YOU SHOULD HAVE SAID SINCERLY SLEEPING WITH THE ENEMY, BECAUSE THAT IS INDEED WHAT YOUR DOING!! My grandma always says what’s done in the dark will ALWAYS come to the LIGHT??? Here’s the light, your son is SICK! Now you have to have blood work done and you don’t match. You are absolutely right here comes the drama!! You and I both know that your husband isn’t the father. I think that he would have been pissed and disgusted knowing that he’s been raising someone else’s child for 5 years, but for it to be his ENEMY!! Girl if he is anything like the guys I know you better run for your life! I try my hardest not to judge people so you don’t have to worry about me judging you. But I do speak my mind and I will give you the business!! There are so many women in the world that want what you have a loving husband and a beautiful child, and you have taken that and ruined it. Lets break this thing down now:

**Your sleeping with another man??? What part of the game is that? I understand you were going through a rough patch, but why do women insist on sleeping with someone because your going through it with your spouse. I know we as woman don’t want to be judged any differently then men but the FACT is we ARE!! We can’t do what they do and you really shouldn’t want to. You should have taken that time to evaluate yourself and decide if you want to continue to be in that relationship and what should you two work on to make it better instead of spreading those legs.

** The other guy is his ENEMY??? Are you kidding me is this some kind of joke? Ok so you slept with someone else… There are millions of guys and you chose the guy he HATES??? I know you know they were enemies you’re his wife so instead of sleeping with the enemy you should have been riding with your husband if they got beef then you got beef with him too. How do you let him swindle you into sleeping with him? You WANTED to and still is. Which makes me think you can’t turn a whore into a housewife!!

** The enemy knows he’s the baby daddy and he’s laughing at your husband and you. You accept gifts from him because YOU know he IS the dad. You also accept them because your not INDEPENDENT or logical. Be ambitious help your husband get everything your child needs instead of playing with the enemy. Like Jacki-o Said “It’s not what you do; it’s how you do the sh*t!’’

**Girl gone head and let that cat out the bag work on getting your baby better because he’s the innocent person in this situation. He didn’t ask to be here so the mess you’ve caused yourself can be put on hold until your son is all better. But please believe any real man is going to SNAP and that time will come!! SMH what a mess you’ve created. Get some strength and class about you babygirl. Do cheat yourself. Strive for better… It’s only right!! As always "I PROMISE TO REMAIN TRUE!!’’


**Take a listen to the Jacki-o song sleeping with the enemy this is YOU all DAY!!!***

Loving my sisters ALWAYS,
ForeverTrue

Promise To Remain True: 3/07/2011 Money or Sex???

Ms. True,
        I need help on how to tell my husband I’m leaving him for his best friend. I don’t really know how I got here but I am and now there’s no turning back. My husband is a wonderful man but he can’t satisfy me like his best friend can. My husband is always working and he is a great provider but I am a woman with needs. My husband travels a lot on business and he started sending his best friend to check on us when he is out of the country on business. At first when his best friend would come around it was all totally innocent. I mean he really isn’t even my type so I kept going like normal. But the more my husband was gone the more he came around and we started sparking up conversations and one day we had sex. Now a year and a half later I’m still here having the best sex of my life. Being in the same bed with my husband turns my stomach. When he touches me I just want to die. I have no love for him or his best friend and he shouldn’t have left us all those times. My only problem is his best friend doesn’t make half the money my husband makes and it’s more than likely if I leave my husband and live with his best friend I will be the main bread winner. Truthfully I don’t want to be. I feel like for all those times my husband was away on business I deserve the money given. I deserve the thrill and all the money that comes with being in a relationship like this. I guess you can say I’m torn between the best sex ever and the money. His best friend told me he loves me and I just laughed. This is only good sex honey. Don’t judge me try walking a mile in my shoes before you start that bullshit. Just help me decide how I am gone do this?
Sincerely,
Money or Sex
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Money or Sex,

        I PROMISE TO REMAIN TRUE!!! Are you kidding me?? This is the exact ish I talk about all the time about women who don’t respect themselves and their relationships. Its women that do things like this that make me so disgusted. First off you came to me with this drama then you say to walk a mile in your shoes before I say anything??? Are you kidding me??? SMFH don’t jump yo a** in the water if you can’t swim! As a woman you should have a little bit more respect for yourself then to even put yourself in a situation like this. I made a list of things that made me say wow!!

        You slept with his best friend.

        Your not even in love with either party involved.

        Laying next to your husband TURNS YOUR STOMACH??

        You DESERVE all the thrills and money that come with a   

         relationship like this??

        Your only major decision is to stay with the money or sex??

        You have 2 men who are in love with you and you laugh?

        Emotions aren’t the least bit of your concern.

Honey HIV/AIDS is REAL!!!!! Please don’t play yourself. You need to do some heavy soul searching and really think about why you are trying to play with these men and their emotions. It’s hard for a man to love and you have two; yet you’re not satisfied!! When did it become cute to be a gold digger? Last I checked I love being an INDEPENDENT BLACK WOMAN, or just an INDEPENDENT WOMAN. You should try it sometimes there’s nothing better boo! It’s a dangerous game you’re playing when it comes to love and then there’s a friendship involved. I hope you don’t have any children especially not any daughters because; this is one HELL OF AN EXAMPLE FOR HER!!!! How about you leave both guys alone and concentrate on you. Find out why you need a man to validate you! Why you can’t depend on yourself and be satisfied. Why you would risk your life and health. Try and Love yourself first!!!!!! Do better by you and if you have kids LEAD BY EXAMPLE!!!

**Smooches**

With all the love in the world

Promise to Remain True... 2/28/2011 Should I leave my cheating HUSBAND???

He is cheating and he doesn’t know I know. What do I do?

Forever True,
     I need your help. My man is one of the best providers ever. He takes great care of my kids as well as me. We don’t want for anything. I haven’t worked on anyone’s job since we have been together. That’s how good of a man he is to me. I’ve never had a relationship where I am taken care of so good. I don’t want for ANYTHING. Never had anything disconnected, always gets us the best of everything. Fast forward to when I found out he was cheating. I was cleaning up and heard a buzzing noise coming from a shelf in the closet! Low and behold an un-accounted for cell phone. On the caller id it said Wet Wet. I didn’t answer but 2 seconds after “Wet Wet” hung up she texted the phone and said “Bae where are you? What time you coming to get some of this good good?” I dropped the phone and it seemed like my whole world crumbled when I read that. My stomach dropped and I didn’t know what to do. Am I loosing my family? I give this man everything he could ever need out of a relationship. I know he not gone tell me the p*ssy aint good. He never has to ask I am always at his beckon call whether its sex, food, or companionship. I am made from a different type of cloth. I was always taught that if you give a man what he needs he will never stray! So what am I doing wrong then? When does he have time to cheat? He is always home!!! So I’ve had time to think on this and I really want to know should I confront him or leave it alone. My sister says as long as I am the main, but how can I be happy with being “The Main” I want to be the only. What about all the good things that he has brought to my kids and me. We do laugh and chill way more then we ever argue. I asked him would he mess with anyone else and he said I am the only woman for him. But I know that’s a lie but I’m just kind of scared what life would be like without him. What do you think I should do?
Signed,
He thinks he is so damn slick!

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As always I promise to remain True so here we go...


Girl I have seen this sitation way to many times. I was once a girl like you.I learned quickly that no amount of MONEY is worth my SELF-RESPECT!!!! I cried and cried trying to see how to fix my home back to the place it was before disaster came and took over my home! I am not telling you to leave but I HAD TO leave otherwise I would have lost my sanity! You have to do whats best for you! I do suggest you confront him with the information you have and go from there! No more times of being WEAK!! Be STRONG and HANDLE your BUSINESS!!! Don't let him get away with that ISH... You signed your letter he thinks he's so damn slick, but in a way boo boo he is because you let him get away with everything he is doing! Your choosing to be silent when you have a voice!! USE IT!!! Don't do what he is doing and harvest a secret! It's so unhealthy for your health! I suggest counceling and prayer whatever you do make sure your happy ALWAYS!! I can't help but think that your harvesting this secret and scared to confront him because he takes care of everything in your home! You hold no responsibilty and your scared to loose all of that by confronting him with what you know or saw. Become more independent. Don't depend on a man for anything depend on yourself and make sure you can do all that you can with or without a man! Who knows if he will just up and leave and where will that leave you as woman? As a provider for your kids?? Maybe thats what he is lacking and he has started to turn to another more independent woman! Yes Sex is good and I too was taught to never leave my man wanting for nothing. But I also know that I am a woman of standards and yes I have done some crazy stuff in my life and still is... but at the end of the day I know beyond a shadow of a doubt I can do BAD ALL BY MYSELF!!!! Smile boo come up with a game plan. See past your tears and think of a way to handle your situation that will benefit all parties involved!!


**Loving my sisters always**
ForeverTrue

Promise to remain true... 2/21/2011 IS MY MAN GAY???

Hello,       
      I have been dating this guy for 1 year as of TODAY. We hit it off from the start. He makes me laugh all the time, he is such a great father to his child and I can honestly say that I can see myself spending the rest of my life with him. I want to have his children. We always talk about life and our plans for the future. My whole family loves him to death. It seems something like perfect. We still talk on the phone like kids he’s my heart and I love him with my everything. Well you’re probably thinking what’s the issue right?
      Well we always took pride in the fact that we tell each other everything. His cell phone is my cell phone and vice versa. I thought there was nothing hid all cards were on the table. My gay cousin came into town this past weekend. I went to introduce my boyfriend to my cousin and there was this unspoken tension. I chopped it up as my boyfriend not really liking “gay” people to much. He always had something slick to say about a gay person and wondering “How they can be gay when there’s so much p*ssy in the world?” Later on my sister called and said she needs to talk to me asap. She said my cousin said that my boyfriend is gay and he has proof. I instantly hung up with her and called my cousin. He told me my boyfriend slept with his best friend about 6 months ago and he called his friend on 3 way. At first I was like yeah right until he described a birth mark on my boyfriends butt and other details only someone who has been intimate with my boyfriend would know. I instantly hung up on my cousin and called my boyfriend to come home ASAP! I confronted him and he didn’t even hesitate he told me it was true. He said it only happened once in his life and that he IS NOT GAY! He also said that it wasn't a big deal. Yet he knows nothing about this guy INCLUDING his last name whch makes me think he does this more than he is saying. He said everyone experiments once in their lifetime and that was his chance. He just wanted to see what all the fuss was about. He said he loves me and only me and wants me to be his wife. At first I was scared but now I don’t know what to think. Could that have only been an experiment and how do I know he won’t do it again? My hearts so torn I love him to death but I CAN’T be with a gay guy? So I guess I’m asking if you think it was an experiment or if he is really gay?

Signed,
Is my man GAY? 
scared and confused




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My dearest Is my man gay,

   Honey you already know the answer to this question and you really don't need me to answer, but since your looking for help I PROMISE TO REMAIN TRUE!!! Honey this is how women get screwed. The DOWN LOW life is very real. If he is continuing to bash gay men even after his encounter that just shows you he is still very interested. I personally feel there are a million men in the world and although you love him there is so much wrong with this situation.
1) He kept a secret from your secret free relationship.
2) If your cousin didn't come would you have ever known?
3) Everyone DOESN'T experiment with their sexuality!!!!
4) He brushed it off as if it wasn't a big deal
5) Did he use a condom?
6) He had to talk to this guy more than just one time before they slept together!!!

Do you know how many men tell their wives/girlfriends their not gay they just "like having sex with men?" Most of those woman loose in the end because they end up contracting something? If he held this from you how can you know he isn't hiding anything else? I would sever ties AIDS is real boo and there's so much more to life than what you are going through right now. It gets better. Live for yourself first and everything else will fall into place. Don't take any mess from NOONE NO MATTER WHAT! This is your life and you only have one life to live so make it worth it!! Matters of the heart are tricky but no love is worth your life or lies! I am not saying that every gay person has AIDS or anything like that but he hid this experience from you so you can only imagine what else!! Then he made it as if it was just NO BIG DEAL...!!!  Learn from this and grow!! Gain some strength and be the woman you want to be in life!! =)

Loving my sisters always,
**Smooches boo boo**

Promise to Remain True...

Hi Guys,
 I've been receiving a lot a letters wanting my opinion on different things. Well with the help of friend, I have come up with the name of this and other posts similar to this, and I am about to start getting it in! I hope y'all ready cuz some of these letters I can't make up if I tried!!! Here it goes remember if you want me to help you out make sure to email:
 Forevertrue1981@gmail.com

**Smooches**