I have been dating this guy for 1 year as of TODAY. We hit it off from the start. He makes me laugh all the time, he is such a great father to his child and I can honestly say that I can see myself spending the rest of my life with him. I want to have his children. We always talk about life and our plans for the future. My whole family loves him to death. It seems something like perfect. We still talk on the phone like kids he’s my heart and I love him with my everything. Well you’re probably thinking what’s the issue right?
Well we always took pride in the fact that we tell each other everything. His cell phone is my cell phone and vice versa. I thought there was nothing hid all cards were on the table. My gay cousin came into town this past weekend. I went to introduce my boyfriend to my cousin and there was this unspoken tension. I chopped it up as my boyfriend not really liking “gay” people to much. He always had something slick to say about a gay person and wondering “How they can be gay when there’s so much p*ssy in the world?” Later on my sister called and said she needs to talk to me asap. She said my cousin said that my boyfriend is gay and he has proof. I instantly hung up with her and called my cousin. He told me my boyfriend slept with his best friend about 6 months ago and he called his friend on 3 way. At first I was like yeah right until he described a birth mark on my boyfriends butt and other details only someone who has been intimate with my boyfriend would know. I instantly hung up on my cousin and called my boyfriend to come home ASAP! I confronted him and he didn’t even hesitate he told me it was true. He said it only happened once in his life and that he IS NOT GAY! He also said that it wasn't a big deal. Yet he knows nothing about this guy INCLUDING his last name whch makes me think he does this more than he is saying. He said everyone experiments once in their lifetime and that was his chance. He just wanted to see what all the fuss was about. He said he loves me and only me and wants me to be his wife. At first I was scared but now I don’t know what to think. Could that have only been an experiment and how do I know he won’t do it again? My hearts so torn I love him to death but I CAN’T be with a gay guy? So I guess I’m asking if you think it was an experiment or if he is really gay?
Signed,
Is my man GAY?
scared and confused
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My dearest Is my man gay,
Honey you already know the answer to this question and you really don't need me to answer, but since your looking for help I PROMISE TO REMAIN TRUE!!! Honey this is how women get screwed. The DOWN LOW life is very real. If he is continuing to bash gay men even after his encounter that just shows you he is still very interested. I personally feel there are a million men in the world and although you love him there is so much wrong with this situation.
1) He kept a secret from your secret free relationship.
2) If your cousin didn't come would you have ever known?
3) Everyone DOESN'T experiment with their sexuality!!!!
4) He brushed it off as if it wasn't a big deal
5) Did he use a condom?
6) He had to talk to this guy more than just one time before they slept together!!!
Do you know how many men tell their wives/girlfriends their not gay they just "like having sex with men?" Most of those woman loose in the end because they end up contracting something? If he held this from you how can you know he isn't hiding anything else? I would sever ties AIDS is real boo and there's so much more to life than what you are going through right now. It gets better. Live for yourself first and everything else will fall into place. Don't take any mess from NOONE NO MATTER WHAT! This is your life and you only have one life to live so make it worth it!! Matters of the heart are tricky but no love is worth your life or lies! I am not saying that every gay person has AIDS or anything like that but he hid this experience from you so you can only imagine what else!! Then he made it as if it was just NO BIG DEAL...!!! Learn from this and grow!! Gain some strength and be the woman you want to be in life!! =)
Loving my sisters always,
**Smooches boo boo**
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